Sex. How long should sex last? What quality should be attached to time for sex to be termed as good? How many minutes should Sex take for each party to say it “was” satisfactory? How good should it be for someone not to be branded a “one minute man”?
Sex is a topic we’d love to talk about but not many people are willing to openly engage and have a discussion about it especially when there’s a problem that overshadow the performance. Sex is supposed to be a moment of mutual enjoyment where parties involved give and take in equal measures. However, when a man bust the nut too early it hinders high grade enjoyment from fully being experienced by the woman. It becomes a sore pain in the heart and mind. When a man cums before penetration, few seconds or less than 5 minutes after the commencement of sex, the condition is termed as Premature Ejaculation(PE).
Premature Ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction where a man orgasm a few moments after penetration or it happens before intercourse.
More than 30% of men reportedly suffer from PE or reported to have had the problem at some point in their sexual lives.
If PE happens once in a while i.e infrequently, there’s no need for concern. Nonetheless, if it is a usual occurrence, the problem needs to be treated by a “doctor”.
PE is a serious concern and presents a huge problem for men who would want their women to reach the big O but the stamina to magically rock her mound of venus is not there. With PE comes self esteem issues, insecurities, constant doubts etc.
In a union where the man sperms faster and leaves the woman ‘high and dry’ and not at the peak of satisfaction, cases of infidelity tends to creep its ugly head. If she can not orgasm and made to have an unforgettable big O, she will find a way to experience the cloud nine that emotional entanglement brings. She will find a person who can use his lips, tongue, hands and custard launcher to tenderly to ignite her to a world of “oh baby I’m cumming”.
Many men fear talking about Premature Ejaculation. They suffer in silence and pray to the gods of miracles to fix them. They frown upon hearing about their partner wanting sex because they know performance will not make the lady’s fountain leak like a holy spring in Uganda.
PE is a problem brought both by biological and psychological factors. It can be treated without having to pop vasodilators or the Viagra and other blue pills of the world.
A man can be diagnosed with Premature Ejaculation if,
“*Always or nearly always ejaculate within one minute of penetration
*Are unable to delay ejaculation during intercourse all or nearly all of the time.
*Feel distressed and frustrated, and tend to avoid sexual intimacy as a result”(mayoclinic).
PE can be categorised as either Lifelong or Acquired.
Lifelong occurs in all sexual encounters. Acquired comes after you’ve had previous sexual encounters but without PE issues.
PE can be treated and the man made to naturally gain a performance only likened to formulae one race cars. Irrespective of any underlying issues, premature ejaculation can be fixed because it is not a sanctioned death sentence handed down by a one-eyed dictator.
In Kenya, Premature Ejaculation (and of course erectile dysfunction) can be handled and treated by specific doctors and clinics. Men hide in shame because they can not make their women reach the big O and have an end that ‘cums’ with trembling, shaking and temporary confusion.
I hear one such clinic that naturally fixes men with PE, without prescribing pills and expensive drugs, is Afya Space. There are other clinics that does so but it is probably leading in reversing Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction.
I hear some natural foods can also help manage PE and make a man able to pound the vertical smile like a Nigerian yam and flip it like an oily chapati from Mama Otis.
Whispers from the silent valley of love spiced with legendary tales from the Seventh spiritual realm have it that if a woman can not be made to get the big O and orgasm like an angel experiencing heavenly pleasures, she will find someone to whip it until she says “it’s enough, imenitosha”. She will find someone to give it to her the way she want it.
Men are suffering, but no more.